No Wi-Fi, No Plans, No Problem
Why summer no longer feels like an escape—and how to take it back
Summer of '94.
I'm ten years old, standing in my front yard at 8 AM with a baseball glove and absolutely nothing planned.
By 10 AM, we had organized a pickup baseball game in the cul-de-sac down the street.
By noon, we were swimming at the neighborhood pool. By 2 PM, we'd gotten bored and decided to build a fort in the woods. By 4 PM, we were skating across the highway to go play baseball again, but this time at a field behind the elementary school.
By 6 PM, we were laying in the grass eating popcicles, completely unaware that ten hours had passed…
The only interruption was when our parents finally called us home for dinner.
No adult scheduled any of it. No one documented it. No one checked the weather app or researched "fun summer activities for kids" online. We just lived minute by minute and enjoyed everything summer had to offer…
Summer used to be an escape from everything. Now everything follows us into summer.
The Great Summer Invasion
Remember when summer had its own rules?
When school ended, real life paused. Bedtimes got later. Meals happened outside. Shoes became optional. Boredom was not something to be fixed—it was the raw material for adventure.
We disappeared into summer mornings and emerged hours later with stories that would become legend. "Remember that time we..."
Now? We take conference calls from the beach. Answer emails between innings at Little League games. Plan family vacations while comparing them to everyone else's Instagram stories. We schedule "spontaneous" adventures and feel guilty when we're not being productive during "downtime."
The season that once meant total freedom has become just another backdrop for our always-on lives.
Our kids feel the invasion too. They’ve come to expect entertainment, information, and stimulation at all times.
Even in summer. Even outside. Even when they're supposed to be free.
How Everything Followed Us
The invasion didn't happen overnight. It was strategic, gradual, and almost invisible:
First came the connectivity: Smartphones that made us reachable anywhere. WiFi that followed us to every corner of the world. The expectation that we'd always be "on."
Then came the comparison: Social media that turned every family moment into a competition. Pinterest boards that made simple summer feel inadequate. The pressure to optimize every experience.
Finally came the addiction: The feelings we get from our phones. The anxiety of missing out. The compulsive need to capture and share instead of simply live.
Now we carry our entire digital lives to the beach, to the mountains, to the backyard. Summer doesn't feel different anymore because we never actually leave anything behind.
We've forgotten that escape requires leaving something behind.
What We Lost in the Invasion
Think about your best childhood summer memory. Close your eyes and go there. I bet it had these elements:
Unstructured time…Hours that belonged to you, with no agenda, no optimization, no adult supervision.
Complete presence…You weren't thinking about anything else because there wasn't anything else competing for your attention.
Physical engagement…Your body was dirty, tired, sun-kissed, fully alive in the world.
Genuine boredom…The uncomfortable-but-necessary space where creativity and self-discovery happened.
Seasonal rhythms…Life actually felt different in summer, not just busy in different locations.
Shared adventure…Experiences that became stories, inside jokes, and lifelong memories.
That wasn't just childhood nostalgia—that was true escape. And it's what we and our kids have been missing…
Reclaiming Summer as Your Escape
Summer's power to heal and restore hasn't disappeared. It's just buried under all the digital noise. We can still dig it out.
But it requires something radical in 2025: intentionally choosing disconnection.
And it starts with giving yourself permission.
You have permission to be unreachable. The world will not collapse if you don't see that notification for two hours.
You have permission to let your kids be bored. Boredom builds character, creativity, and self-reliance.
You have permission to choose experience over documentation. The best moments can't be captured anyway—they can only be lived.
You have permission to make summer feel different. Just because everyone else stays plugged in doesn't mean you have to.
You have permission to waste time. Sometimes the most important thing you can do is absolutely nothing.
Your Summer Challenge
This week, try this simple experiment:
Pick one summer activity and build a complete digital boundary around it.
Maybe it's your morning coffee outside. Saturday morning pancakes. Evening walks. Pool time. Bedtime stories.
Turn off the phone. Put it in another room. Let that time exist in its own bubble, protected from the digital world.
Notice what happens when you're fully present. Notice what your kids do when they know you're truly available. Notice how different quiet feels when you're not waiting for the next ping.
Then ask yourself: What would change if more of summer felt like this?
Summer is still trying to set us free. We just have to be brave enough to let it.
The pickup games are still possible. The fireflies still come out at dusk. Your kids still want to show you the cool thing they found. The sunset is still beautiful without a filter.
Somewhere in your neighborhood, there's still an empty lot waiting for a game of catch. Somewhere in your backyard, there's still magic hiding in the grass. Somewhere in your summer, there's still space for the kind of memories that last a lifetime.
Summer used to be an escape from everything. It still can be.
We just have to choose to leave some things behind.
Live less online. Live more in real life.✌️
I'm Christopher Sciullo, creator of the H.E.A.L. Method. I help parents balance their own tech use while guiding kids toward healthier screen habits—so we can all rediscover the wonder of life beyond the screen.
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